Blackmail??

An argument erupted among friends a few hours ago. The premise to the less informed could be termed stupid. One of my guys put forward a question. His question or should we say statement was would there be more virgins in the world if men stopped coercing and blackmailing women into having sex.

He threw the question out there and for the next four hours or so guys started trashing it out, arguing for or against the premise. I on the other hand was on the side of the nays.

I based my argument on the fact that I do not think anyone can be coerced into doing anything without some sort of leverage. Maybe you have dirt on the person or what not. There is a form of manipulation going on in most relationships and I do admit men manipulate women but women manipulate men too.

That does not imply I do not accept people; especially women aren’t in abusive relationships but those in that category in my opinion do not make up to half of the dating population. Life for the most part has choice and free will wired into it.

If you’re not in some sort of human sex trafficking thing how pray can one claim you were coerced into doing something you did not want to do? As depraved as the world has gotten in the last couple of years, aren’t there still some people who are doing things the right way?

Sex before marriage is basically an acceptable norm now. But aren’t there those who aren’t engaging in sexual intercourse before marriage? Most often it might not be because of religion or some other warped sense of self righteousness. Their decision could just be based on personal preferences.

The world has evolved to such an extent that wrong is termed right and right wrong. What obtains now is most people try to hide their shortcomings by excusing away their behaviour. The guy says I have needs; so he keeps bullying his girl to have sex until she folds and sleeps with him. His excuse being he intends to marry her eventually. The girl hides her guilt by explaining it away that the guy coerced her into doing what she didn’t want to do. She does this because her conscience keeps disturbing her.

I do not think there is any excuse for wrongdoing. No matter how right and pleasurable it could seem. If you do wrong why not (like Harley Quinn said in suicide squad) own up to that sh__? You cannot tell me as an innocent woman you leave your house and go to a guy’s place when you know he is alone and not realize you’re courting trouble. If he makes a move you say he coerced you. You can’t tell me sex wasn’t on your mind when you went to see him.

We manipulate ourselves on a daily basis. Both sexes do it. Girls use sex to control and get things from their men. Men use women’s gullibility and soft side to make them do what they want. Why then should God send people to hell if they can’t help their wrongdoing? Am guessing its cos he knows they have the power to say no to evil but choose not to. No man or woman (except with some extenuating circumstances; like blackmail, trafficking et al) can convince me they were forced to do what they didn’t want to do in a relationship. You did it because you secretly wanted to. 

Thoughts please ___